I have to wonder what the big deal is about. So Prop 8 is unConstitutional, but any change is on hold until the case is decided once and for all—which means up to the US Supreme Court—where Elena Kagan (Single/No Kids) will undoubtedly vote to remove all military recruiters from government-funded campuses in California… ok, wrong story.
Anyway, in what may seem like a reversal to some of you, I find myself on the side of the Prop 8 detractors. Yes, you heard me right.
The best argument I’ve heard to date is this: What you can or can’t legally do (your rights) should have nothing to do with my likes, dislikes, beliefs, or disbeliefs. That’s a paraphrase but it catches the essence of the position. And so goes the argument that whether or not I like or agree with same-sex marriage, ones rights to the same should not be based on my feelings about it.
There are those who suggest that their opposition is based on spiritual values. Trust me, I have spiritual values too. But this nation is not built on or based on anyone’s specific spiritual values. Those who think otherwise need to look to the same cherished Constitution to see that there is no state-endorsed religion. This is a nation of the people, for the people, and by the people (Gettysburg Address)—and not all the people are from a Judeo-Christian background. Contrary to the belief held by many outside of this country, the United States of America is not a Christian nation. So it should be no surprise to anyone that non-Christian values and practices occur all around us everyday.
Denying gay and lesbian couples the right to be married—the same marriage rights I and other heterosexual couples have—is perhaps the last bastion of defense in the Christian war against homosexuality. But is it a war that should be fought at all?
Well, here’s another question for you. Marriages are licensed by the State, not the Church. So why do church values come into play at all?
Divorce is managed by the State and churches are not typically involved. So again, why are churches and church values so important on the other end of the process?
Well, I know the church view on marriage so don’t feel you have to lecture me on it being an institution created by God in the Garden of Eden and between one man and one woman—Adam and Eve. And I also know the arguments about gay couples raising children to be the next gay generation, the myth about pedophile gay couples, and all the other vitriolic nonsense that’s out there. By the same argument, the Catholic Church should be put out of business because of their pedophile priests!
You see, it doesn’t take a gay or lesbian to behave in a way that the masses (no pun intended) would find offensive. Heterosexual idiots abound as well. And as for the divorce rate, saying same-sex couples are more prone to breaking off a relationship is unfounded. The divorce rate for heterosexuals is high enough on its own to shoot down that argument.
So why not let them marry? Who is threatened? My goodness—no-one is.
Is the moral fabric of the country at risk? Well, what moral fabric? In other words, if these couples exist, we’re OK, but let them marry under the sanction of the government (and applicable churches) and we’re going to fall into the sewer as a nation? Why? Because they were given a piece of paper and can be wife and wife? Husband and husband?
Sorry, I can’t see any reason to impose my beliefs and values on others and in this case, I cannot condone the management of states and the nation on Christian principals as viewed or held by some. Goodness! There’s not even agreement among all Christians!!!
Besides, as a nation, we are so far off the rails of morality that to try to hold any course now really means trying to do a u-turn several miles down a one-way road. I don’t see it happening.
Sooner as opposed to later, the arguments against same-sex marriage will all have been played out in the courts and we will have to get used to asking some of our female friends “So how’s your wife doing?” as part of normal conversation.
And who knows? Maybe Anderson Cooper will finally feel free to come out!